Guys get a bad wrap. Men are thought of as cheaters. One blogger threw out a statistic that 3 out of 4 men in a committed relationship are unfaithful. It seems a bit high, and I wonder where the research came from
Without diving head first into detailed research on infidelity, I think it's safe to say that infidelity has become more commonplace. That doesn't make it right, only more widespread. With men being the blamed sex, women's infidelity often gets overlooked. Men who suspect infidelity shouldn't write it off.
An AskMen.com article lists 10 signs she's cheating on you. The top 10 list includes her having a secretive friend, hiding her schedule, and making an extra effort to look attractive. The author of the article, Eric Heston, goes on to say that guys shouldn't fool themselves into thinking a woman would never cheat, nor should they jump to conclusions that she is. If you notice one or more of Heston's top 10 I've got a way for you to get proof.
DNA technology has allowed laboratories to offer infidelity testing. This test involves screening a suspicious article of clothing or other fabric (bedsheets, towel, etc.) to determine if semen is present. Once found, the lab can extract DNA from the sample, producing a DNA profile. Just like a profile for a paternity test or CODIS database, results will show a full 16 genetic marker report. From there, you can compare the profile to your own DNA. If the semen isn't yours, then you've confirmed your suspicions.
The crucial part of this is the stain. You can attempt to extract DNA from anything, but unless there's a noticeable stain the odds of obtaining a profile are small. When a stain is present DNA can almost always be extracted.
Is there a more effective method of proving infidelity? Well, you could always call Cheaters and catch it on video tape.
We get this question all the time. A client asks, "Will my results be legal in court?" The honest answer is, it depends on the judge. The judge decides what will be excepted as evidence and what will be thrown out. There are are three things you can do to make fairly certain your DNA test results will be admissible as evidence in court. Here they are:
1) Unbiased Third Party Collection
Your samples need to be collected by someone who does not care how the results come out. You cannot do it yourself, because you might try to cheat the system. Your brother can't do it, because he wants to get you off the hook. It needs to be done by someone who has no interest in you being the father or not the father. The keyword here is unbiased.
2) Chain of Custody
Paperwork needs to be filled out which shows every person who touches the samples between the time it is collected and the time the results are reported. Whoever collects the DNA sample needs to sign off on it. If they ship the package using FedEX, then they need to sign off on that. When the lab receives it....you guessed it...they sign off on it. We need to make sure that no party has entered the chain of custody and tampered with the samples.
3) Accredited Laboratory
The lab that performs your test should be accredited at the very least by the AABB. This is an organization that overseas DNA testing labs and makes sure they follow proper procedures. If you choose a lab that is not accredited you might get a cheaper price, but you might not get an accurate result, and the judge may through the results out.
If you follow the three guidelines above you should get results which are court admissible. Legal DNA testing is becoming more and more important in cases of child support, custody, and even infidelity.
Best of luck!
